As I sit here at 5:30am I think about self care and wonder why I am not still in bed. Sleep is certainly one form of self care. But that is not the one that works best for me, I know shocker for those that know we, after all I am a sleeper!!
But I was recently reminded by a few different people after the Thanksgiving Chaos, about the need to maintain oneness, and strength when dealing with others. So often we forsake our own happiness and sanity for the happiness of others. We tend to overcompensate, making sure everyone else is having a good time, leaving ourselves empty and hallow. "No, I got it, I can do it all, you sit" why not say sure thanks for the help when it's offered?
Why the need to be viewed as perfect in others eyes in order for us to feel competent, effective and powerful. Why not BE powerful, BE centered, and demonstrate for others how healthy relationships are two way streets, that you both give and take. Have you ever felt like you have a friend or family member that takes advantage of your kindness and generosity? Chances are that is the dynamic YOU have set up, whether through your own behaviors or in combination with another persons behaviors. And now is the time to find some balance. Now is the time to nurture your self for a change. (You know for most of you it is a change).
The reality is we learn and grow through adversity and challenge. Consequences in life is how we grow from children to adults. Saying "no" to those you love it ok, it's effective for them and it is the healthiest thing you can do to nurture yourself. Boundaries make us feel safe and effective so give it a try. And no they will not like it, but if you stick with it. it gets easier and they become more accepting of it....eventually.
Today's Promise:
I pinky promise, that I will say NO more often, love more freely and sit in peace just for me, today and everyday, and I triple dog dare you to do the same!!Namsate
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